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The Ultimatum: Queer Love

The Ultimatum: Queer Love

  • Premiered: 
    May 24, 2023
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  • Network: Netflix
  • Category: Series
  • Genre: Reality
  • Type: Live Action
  • Concept: 
    LGBTQ+ version of The Ultimatum: Marry or Move On 
  • Subject Matter: Relationship
  • Tags: LGBTQ

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    Season 1

Plot Synopsis

Hosted by JoAnna Garcia Swisher, this queer-centric spin-off of Netflix's THE ULTIMATUM features five long-term couples who are put under pressure to get married or move on. The couples -- made up of women and non-binary people -- are at a crossroads in their relationship. One partner is ready for marriage, the other may have doubts. An ultimatum is issued. And in just over eight weeks, each couple must either get married, or get out, after they each choose new potential partners in a life-changing opportunity to get a glimpse of two different futures. THE ULTIMATUM: QUEER LOVE debuted with four episodes on Wednesday, May 24, 2023 on Netflix. Four additional installments dropped one week later on Wednesday, May 31, and the final two episodes premiered on Wednesday, June 7. About the couples:

Ultimatum Giver: Lexi Goldberg, 25 (she/her)
Ultimatum Receiver: Raelyn 'Rae' Cheung-Sutton, 27 (she/her)
Lexi is "ready 130%" to spend the rest of her life with Rae, her girlfriend of over three years. The two first connected on Bumble, and after meeting IRL one fateful night out in West Hollywood, they've been inseparable ever since. Now, they're at a major crossroads, as Rae is stalling when it comes to marriage and won't commit to saying yes at the altar just yet. Will Rae's tendency to overanalyze things get in the way of their happily ever after? Or will Lexi's ultimatum push her to realize that an engagement is the key to her happy life and wife?

Ultimatum Giver: Yoly Rojas, 34 (she/her)
Ultimatum Receiver: Mal Wright, 36 (she/her/they)
Three years into their relationship, Yoly just wants Mal to "choose [her]" for a once-in-a-lifetime commitment. The couple first met during Chicago Pride years ago, and their friendship blossomed into a full-blown relationship that's weathered a move to Seattle, a breakup and a reconciliation. Now Yoly is confident in their rock-solid romance and is ready for Mal to pop the question. But Mal wants to be on even stronger footing when it comes to their finances and beyond before they decide to spend the rest of their lives together and potentially bring children into the world.

Ultimatum Giver: Mildred Woody, 33 (she/her)
Ultimatum Receiver: Tiff Der, 32 (they/them)
Mildred believes she "deserves to be happy" at this point in her life -- and that looks like a ring from Tiff. The two first connected after Tiff came across Mildred's Instagram account and somewhat thirstily slid right into her DMs. Turns out, they were just what Mildred was looking for in her next relationship after a painful divorce. Ever since then, they've built a happy home together, which includes Mildred's teenage son, and now the ball is in Tiff's court. Mildred is ready to take the next step, but Tiff has major reservations about marriage given their constant fighting and yet-to-be-resolved communication issues.

Ultimatum Giver: Xander Boger, 30 (she/her/they)
Ultimatum Receiver: Vanessa Papa, 30 (she/her)
As queer love stories go, it doesn't get more classic than Vanessa and Xander, whose boyfriends in high school were best friends. After coming out and reconnecting years later, Vanessa and Xander realized they were meant to be together instead. Now, they've been dating for four years and have never spent more than three days apart -- which isn't hard when their home base is Hawaii. But Xander's desire to start their next chapter together as wives has brought them to a crossroads, particularly when it comes to her dreams of having a family. Vanessa, meanwhile, is worried about losing her sense of freedom should they tie the knot one day.

Ultimatum Giver: Sam Mark, 31 (she/her)
Ultimatum Receiver: Aussie Chau, 42 (pronoun: Aussie)
When Sam and Aussie first met, their immediate connection was like "something that you see in the movies." After first crossing paths in an online social group for LGBTQ+ people during the pandemic, they decided to purse a romance offline and have been together for the past one and a half years. Despite being a decade younger, Sam is ready to make the ultimate commitment to Aussie and have a ring on her finger. But the anxiety-prone Aussie would rather live together for a longer period of time before committing to marriage. Only time will tell if Sam's ultimatum will accelerate or deteriorate their relationship.

Production & Distribution

  • Produced by Kinetic Content